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We are all created differently.

Some of us believe that we can love more than once in a lifetime, but some of us don’t. Some of us can fall in and out of love over and over again. Some of us, on the other hand, believe that we can like more than once, but that we can only love but once in a lifetime. If love passes us by in this lifetime, then we would have to wait to love in another lifetime for we can only have but one true love in a lifetime. And so in this lifetime when love is no more, life will go on for us. We will keep strong. We will smile, we will laugh, we will just go on living. But once in a while unbeknownst to anyone, when thoughts creep in or when we see something that triggers a memory, we will turn melancholic, we will drop our facade and our smile will turn into sadness and our laughter into tears. Just in a little quiet moment, we will let our guard down, we will let ourselves feel, to give in to our emotions, and let those salty drops of water trickle down our cheeks. For only when we are completely alone, can we show our weakness. Just for a brief moment can we close our eyes and just be our one true self.

So do not judge a person by what you see on the outside coz’ we are all build differently. We all see the world differently. We all experience the world differently. We all choose to live differently.

 

 
 

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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder… I truly believe in this. I’m not just referring to skin deep kind of beauty. I’m talking about being beautiful on the inside as well as on the outside as a person. But the thing is what I see as being attractive or appealing might not receive the same response from another person. We all have different tastes after all. Just the other day I was sharing with a friend of mine that at times even our likes and dislikes can change with time and she agreed with me. Sometimes what you had no interest in before this might very well pique your interest any time in the future coz’ a person’s taste can evolve through time. Remember that!!

And so my current mantras are…
• Gotta learn to have self control
• Patience is the mother of necessity

…all because of irresistible you… 😁

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Irresistible you

 
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Posted by on June 23, 2015 in Life in Transition

 

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Don’t Marry coz’….

Someone recently shared a piece of advice given by John Dumelo, Ghana’s most eligible bachelor and I couldn’t agree more with it. Marriage isn’t something you can jump into in a blink of an eye. You’ve gotta get hitched for the right reasons and not because that’s the “in” thing to do.  Remember it’s for life, till death do us part. You wouldn’t want that down the road after a few years, you’ve lost interest in each other and you start to drift apart. Best case scenario you stick it out with your other half coz’ you feel that’s the right thing to do; worst case scenario, you go your separate ways. Actually, there’s no best or worst case scenario coz’ both suck. So, put some serious thought into this whole marriage business before you jump into it. Get into it with your eyes wide open and not shut,k. 😉  

 

Don’t marry for sex.
Don’t marry because you are of age.
Don’t marry because you are getting old.
Don’t marry because you are lonely.
Don’t marry because you need someone to support you financially.
Don’t marry because you mistakenly got pregnant.
Don’t marry because you don’t want to lose the person.
Don’t marry because of family pressures.
Don’t marry because you like the idea of marriage and admire every wedding gown you see.
Don’t marry because all your friends are getting married.
But get married because you are in love, get married coz’ he or she is your best friend and when that love is no more, he or she can still make you smile. 🙂

 

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Posted by on January 27, 2015 in Life in Transition, Love

 

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Looking back at 2014…

Compliments of the season to one and all! Tis the season to be merry and of coz’ to look back at everything that has happened throughout the year.

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Now, if I had to use two words to describe 2014, it would be “interesting” and “confusing”. I know these are rather common words, but they are the best words I can think of to sum up the year.

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The year was filled with ups and downs, a real roller coaster ride. I went through two deaths in the family: my paternal grandma and my maternal grand uncle.

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I’m still dealing with some unresolved issues which I hope will be cleared up in 2015. I really hate dragging things on. I think it’s high time I made some decisions.

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Well, work was same ol’, same ol’ for the first half and then it went crazy gruelling busy for the second half. This year saw me taking on new challenges and responsibilities. Them white hairs are popping up faster now! 😛

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Anyhoo, I seem to be constantly learning new things this year, especially as I sojourn into uncharted territories at work and in my personal space. This new knowledge has kinda changed my perspective on life and on how things are in reality. People can change and not everyone plays by the same rules.

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We are taught to follow the rules of society and so like little good children we do, thinking that everything will fall into place if we do. For some, yes and for some, no. Perhaps that might create some frustrations in us. I know how that feels. We strive to follow the rules, but at times we might bend them now and then in our quest to fulfil our desires. Hence, I really do understand the saying that “some rules are meant to be broken”. 😉

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Not only that, I’ve also learned some new stuff about myself, call it self-discovery if you want, and I am not done making sense of them yet. This “new” me has me in a conundrum as it really requires loads of patience, control and a helluva restrain on my part. At times, acting nonchalant is a real challenge especially when I get more and more involve. Some of these stuff I’m going through are things I wouldn’t imagine myself ever experiencing or venturing into. It’s exciting and it’s like a dormant part of me has been woken up. I seem to be a different person. Wow, I didn’t see that coming! I keep asking myself: “Is that really me? Why is it happening to me? Who knew I had it in me?? Not in a million years!”

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As I said this is a super confusing year as well. My beliefs have been shaken. I seem to have more questions and self-doubts. I do wonder whether it’s a test from God or is the Devil playing his tricks on me, taunting me. Things used to be compartmentalised into black and white. Now out pops a grey area. It’s so difficult to handle this grey area. The rules are different there. In fact, I think I’ve kinda thrown the rule book out and am just creating my own rules. Let’s see where this grey area leads us to.

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In addition to that, I’m also confused with the infamous four letter word: LOVE. You would think that a 30 something would know what love is by now. Well, I used to. I think I used to, anyway. What is love? I really don’t know what it is anymore. What does it mean to be in love? What do you equate love with? How do you know when you are in love? Can two persons be together without love? Can you love more than one person? I guess I’ve been watching too many dramas. Sigh… The stubborn bull in me is having a tough time accepting changes. The things that are happening around me are just making it more mind boggling. Perhaps it’s time to fall head over heels in love with someone to understand it better? 😛

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Anyhoo, I’ve kept my promised to myself to at least embark on a solo travel once a year. This year I went to Taiwan and it was an awesome experience. It was a bleisure trip: business + leisure. I took the opportunity to travel to a few cities in Taiwan since I was heading there to present a paper at a conference in Taipei. Taiwan is indeed a lovely country. It’s safe, the public transport is so convenient and the people are pretty friendly as well. Hmm… I will never tire travelling on my own.

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So I can say all in all I have had a colourful horsey year. I have no idea what plans 2015 has for me. There are bound to be great challenges and battles ahead, but I’m definitely gonna try to embrace them the best I can or rather grab them by the horns as the saying goes! 😉

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Let’s all attack 2015 with full of gusto!!

Happy 2015 in advance, everyone!! 🙂

 
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Posted by on December 25, 2014 in Entertainment, Leisure, Life in Transition, Love, Work

 

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Lethal Weapons

Someone recently shared that a woman’s boobs is considered as one of the mightiest weapon a woman has against men. Doesn’t matter whether it is big or small, covered or exposed, them boobies can create havoc in a man. 😛 If you ask me, I don’t really agree with it 100%. What’s so lethal about a pair of breast? But that’s the thing coz’ I’m a woman, so perhaps I don’t see them as being an “asset”. They are just something we women are born with.

Whereas, for men on the other hand, they see them in a whole different light. Some might even say that a woman’s boobs can be a man’s Achilles heel. If you ain’t careful, you’ll be drawn into the web of destruction.

Since women’s boobs are considered a weapon, what’s about the men? Don’t they have their own weapon as well?? Nope, according to my male source. They only have defences. Now, this is something I totally disagree with. Perhaps some men don’t realise it, but their biggest weapon ain’t any physical part of their body, it’s their words a.k.a. praises. The hardest heartless woman can melt in just a jiffy when the right words are used in praise of her. A man’s praises is indeed a very powerful tool. “You look really sexy in that dress today.” What a man says can make the most unattractive of woman feel attractive just with a few simple words.

Now, do I detect some raised eyebrows? Trust me, I know what I’m talking about. I am afterall a woman. We can be vulnerable and insecure at times, but when the right words are applied, bam, we can melt in your arms! 😉

That’s why guys, you all should never be flippant with your words coz’ every thing that you say ain’t just words to us gals. There is a weight in those words, a value. You’ve gotta think about the intention that you wanna achieve with those praises. Are you being sincere with your praises or are you just saying stuff to get into her pants?? Never lead a woman on if you don’t intend to follow through. We women, as you know are very analytical. We will dissect every little thing that you say and try to decode its meaning. Even though sometimes there’s nothing hidden in whatever that you say, we’ll still try to analyse it. 🙂

My advise to men is limit your praises if you are just trying to be friendly coz’ no matter how sincere you are, when you go overboard with your praises, they can get misconstrued. You wouldn’t wanna deal with that headache now, would ya?

As for women, don’t misuse your “assets”. Now, I can honestly say that I have never ever used mine as a “weapon”. If they are considered lethal to you men, so be it. That’s not in my control!  😛

Ladies, always remember that them boobs are God’s given gift, so take good care of them. Don’t just simply use them, be selective in your tactical warfare. Since they are considered a weapon, only flaunt them when you really must. After all, men already see them as a weapon, it’ll be a waste not to use them to your advantage. 😉

All is fair in love and war. Is it now?? 😛

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Posted by on December 21, 2014 in Life in Transition, Love

 

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Dating Your Phone…

Today’s entry is gonna be rather short. Just thought I should put down my two cents on something I witnessed today. I was having an early lunch at a restaurant and in came a couple who sat next to me. They ordered and then each went about checking their phones. They were fiddling with their phones until food arrived. They didn’t even once talk to each other! When food came, they ate in silence and after the meal they continued to check their phones.

Goodness, the first thought that came to my mind was, “Are you dating each other or your phones??” Why would you wanna glue yourself to your phone the whole time when there’s someone in front of you who you can have a real life conversation with?? I mean checking your phone once in a while is alright, but not until there’s hardly any conversation that goes on. What’s the point of going on a date?? You might as well date virtually then!!

Sigh… It’s so sad to see this happening more and more often: people not talking when they are together for meals. I know sometimes it happens to me too. That’s why I either put my phone on silent mode or perhaps keep it in my bag, so that I won’t get distraction with all the notifications that come in. I’ll only have my phone on the table if I’m waiting for important emails or replies to come it coz’ I rather talk to the person in front of me.

I know technology is supposedly bringing us “closer” to each other, but it seems to be drawing us apart at the same time. We talk less and our thumbs or fingers seem to be working more often. It’s sad. 😦

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Posted by on December 19, 2014 in Life in Transition

 

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Just for a moment…

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When the going gets tough, the tough gets going. So, I pray that in my slumber, you’ll accompany me in my dreams.

For a moment, just let me rest my weary head on your shoulder.

For a moment, just let me clasp your hand tightly to mine.

For a moment, just let me inhale all things that is you.

For a moment, just let your intoxicating scent surround me.

For a moment, please be my pillar of strength.

For a moment, please be my gentle healer.

For a moment, please be my knight in shining armour.

For a moment, please surround me with your comforting love.

Just for a moment, let me dream, just for a moment.

 
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Posted by on December 8, 2014 in Creative Juices, Life in Transition, Love

 

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