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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder… I truly believe in this. I’m not just referring to skin deep kind of beauty. I’m talking about being beautiful on the inside as well as on the outside as a person. But the thing is what I see as being attractive or appealing might not receive the same response from another person. We all have different tastes after all. Just the other day I was sharing with a friend of mine that at times even our likes and dislikes can change with time and she agreed with me. Sometimes what you had no interest in before this might very well pique your interest any time in the future coz’ a person’s taste can evolve through time. Remember that!!

And so my current mantras are…
• Gotta learn to have self control
• Patience is the mother of necessity

…all because of irresistible you… 😁

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Irresistible you

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Posted by on June 23, 2015 in Life in Transition

 

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Don’t Marry coz’….

Someone recently shared a piece of advice given by John Dumelo, Ghana’s most eligible bachelor and I couldn’t agree more with it. Marriage isn’t something you can jump into in a blink of an eye. You’ve gotta get hitched for the right reasons and not because that’s the “in” thing to do.  Remember it’s for life, till death do us part. You wouldn’t want that down the road after a few years, you’ve lost interest in each other and you start to drift apart. Best case scenario you stick it out with your other half coz’ you feel that’s the right thing to do; worst case scenario, you go your separate ways. Actually, there’s no best or worst case scenario coz’ both suck. So, put some serious thought into this whole marriage business before you jump into it. Get into it with your eyes wide open and not shut,k. 😉  

 

Don’t marry for sex.
Don’t marry because you are of age.
Don’t marry because you are getting old.
Don’t marry because you are lonely.
Don’t marry because you need someone to support you financially.
Don’t marry because you mistakenly got pregnant.
Don’t marry because you don’t want to lose the person.
Don’t marry because of family pressures.
Don’t marry because you like the idea of marriage and admire every wedding gown you see.
Don’t marry because all your friends are getting married.
But get married because you are in love, get married coz’ he or she is your best friend and when that love is no more, he or she can still make you smile. 🙂

 

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Posted by on January 27, 2015 in Life in Transition, Love

 

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Looking back at 2014…

Compliments of the season to one and all! Tis the season to be merry and of coz’ to look back at everything that has happened throughout the year.

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Now, if I had to use two words to describe 2014, it would be “interesting” and “confusing”. I know these are rather common words, but they are the best words I can think of to sum up the year.

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The year was filled with ups and downs, a real roller coaster ride. I went through two deaths in the family: my paternal grandma and my maternal grand uncle.

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I’m still dealing with some unresolved issues which I hope will be cleared up in 2015. I really hate dragging things on. I think it’s high time I made some decisions.

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Well, work was same ol’, same ol’ for the first half and then it went crazy gruelling busy for the second half. This year saw me taking on new challenges and responsibilities. Them white hairs are popping up faster now! 😛

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Anyhoo, I seem to be constantly learning new things this year, especially as I sojourn into uncharted territories at work and in my personal space. This new knowledge has kinda changed my perspective on life and on how things are in reality. People can change and not everyone plays by the same rules.

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We are taught to follow the rules of society and so like little good children we do, thinking that everything will fall into place if we do. For some, yes and for some, no. Perhaps that might create some frustrations in us. I know how that feels. We strive to follow the rules, but at times we might bend them now and then in our quest to fulfil our desires. Hence, I really do understand the saying that “some rules are meant to be broken”. 😉

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Not only that, I’ve also learned some new stuff about myself, call it self-discovery if you want, and I am not done making sense of them yet. This “new” me has me in a conundrum as it really requires loads of patience, control and a helluva restrain on my part. At times, acting nonchalant is a real challenge especially when I get more and more involve. Some of these stuff I’m going through are things I wouldn’t imagine myself ever experiencing or venturing into. It’s exciting and it’s like a dormant part of me has been woken up. I seem to be a different person. Wow, I didn’t see that coming! I keep asking myself: “Is that really me? Why is it happening to me? Who knew I had it in me?? Not in a million years!”

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As I said this is a super confusing year as well. My beliefs have been shaken. I seem to have more questions and self-doubts. I do wonder whether it’s a test from God or is the Devil playing his tricks on me, taunting me. Things used to be compartmentalised into black and white. Now out pops a grey area. It’s so difficult to handle this grey area. The rules are different there. In fact, I think I’ve kinda thrown the rule book out and am just creating my own rules. Let’s see where this grey area leads us to.

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In addition to that, I’m also confused with the infamous four letter word: LOVE. You would think that a 30 something would know what love is by now. Well, I used to. I think I used to, anyway. What is love? I really don’t know what it is anymore. What does it mean to be in love? What do you equate love with? How do you know when you are in love? Can two persons be together without love? Can you love more than one person? I guess I’ve been watching too many dramas. Sigh… The stubborn bull in me is having a tough time accepting changes. The things that are happening around me are just making it more mind boggling. Perhaps it’s time to fall head over heels in love with someone to understand it better? 😛

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Anyhoo, I’ve kept my promised to myself to at least embark on a solo travel once a year. This year I went to Taiwan and it was an awesome experience. It was a bleisure trip: business + leisure. I took the opportunity to travel to a few cities in Taiwan since I was heading there to present a paper at a conference in Taipei. Taiwan is indeed a lovely country. It’s safe, the public transport is so convenient and the people are pretty friendly as well. Hmm… I will never tire travelling on my own.

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So I can say all in all I have had a colourful horsey year. I have no idea what plans 2015 has for me. There are bound to be great challenges and battles ahead, but I’m definitely gonna try to embrace them the best I can or rather grab them by the horns as the saying goes! 😉

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Let’s all attack 2015 with full of gusto!!

Happy 2015 in advance, everyone!! 🙂

 
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Posted by on December 25, 2014 in Entertainment, Leisure, Life in Transition, Love, Work

 

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Lethal Weapons

Someone recently shared that a woman’s boobs is considered as one of the mightiest weapon a woman has against men. Doesn’t matter whether it is big or small, covered or exposed, them boobies can create havoc in a man. 😛 If you ask me, I don’t really agree with it 100%. What’s so lethal about a pair of breast? But that’s the thing coz’ I’m a woman, so perhaps I don’t see them as being an “asset”. They are just something we women are born with.

Whereas, for men on the other hand, they see them in a whole different light. Some might even say that a woman’s boobs can be a man’s Achilles heel. If you ain’t careful, you’ll be drawn into the web of destruction.

Since women’s boobs are considered a weapon, what’s about the men? Don’t they have their own weapon as well?? Nope, according to my male source. They only have defences. Now, this is something I totally disagree with. Perhaps some men don’t realise it, but their biggest weapon ain’t any physical part of their body, it’s their words a.k.a. praises. The hardest heartless woman can melt in just a jiffy when the right words are used in praise of her. A man’s praises is indeed a very powerful tool. “You look really sexy in that dress today.” What a man says can make the most unattractive of woman feel attractive just with a few simple words.

Now, do I detect some raised eyebrows? Trust me, I know what I’m talking about. I am afterall a woman. We can be vulnerable and insecure at times, but when the right words are applied, bam, we can melt in your arms! 😉

That’s why guys, you all should never be flippant with your words coz’ every thing that you say ain’t just words to us gals. There is a weight in those words, a value. You’ve gotta think about the intention that you wanna achieve with those praises. Are you being sincere with your praises or are you just saying stuff to get into her pants?? Never lead a woman on if you don’t intend to follow through. We women, as you know are very analytical. We will dissect every little thing that you say and try to decode its meaning. Even though sometimes there’s nothing hidden in whatever that you say, we’ll still try to analyse it. 🙂

My advise to men is limit your praises if you are just trying to be friendly coz’ no matter how sincere you are, when you go overboard with your praises, they can get misconstrued. You wouldn’t wanna deal with that headache now, would ya?

As for women, don’t misuse your “assets”. Now, I can honestly say that I have never ever used mine as a “weapon”. If they are considered lethal to you men, so be it. That’s not in my control!  😛

Ladies, always remember that them boobs are God’s given gift, so take good care of them. Don’t just simply use them, be selective in your tactical warfare. Since they are considered a weapon, only flaunt them when you really must. After all, men already see them as a weapon, it’ll be a waste not to use them to your advantage. 😉

All is fair in love and war. Is it now?? 😛

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Posted by on December 21, 2014 in Life in Transition, Love

 

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Us girls and our words

I wrote about guys and their words, so it’s only fair that I write about us girls as well. For guys, girls are confusing and complicated. That’s so totally true! I agree 101% with it!! We sometimes don’t mean what we say and don’t say what we mean. Hahaha… 😛

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This entry is gonna be brief coz’ we (girls) are pretty easy to be explained. The less we talk, the more afraid you should be. Perhaps we might be angry, perhaps we might be plotting, perhaps we are just bored… There are so many perhaps, perhaps, perhaps. Those “perhaps” are for you guys to figure out! 😉

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Ok, on a serious note now. Please remember guys, there are some girls who look real tough on the outside, but in actual fact aren’t. At times it’s just a façade they have perfected. They act all strong and mighty coz’ sometimes that’s the only way they think can prevent them from getting hurt. These girls are just trying to hide away their vulnerability. So don’t EVER attempt to hurt them. Always think twice before you act, guys. These girls can be more affected by your words and actions. So don’t be so nonchalant,k. Or else, you know the saying “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”? I don’t think you would wanna test that theory out! Or do ya?? 😉

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Posted by on November 23, 2014 in Life in Transition, Love

 

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Them Guys and their words

I’m not an authority on the male species. In fact, I’m the last person to say that I know them well. But what I’ll like to share is my two cents on some of them when it comes to word usage in certain situations. So remember that what I’m writing about is not applicable to all guys but only to SOME,k. 😉

Let’s talk about words for a while. As I know it and everyone else knows it as well, English words in general have the same meaning across the board. I mean “one” means one. It doesn’t have a different meaning according to gender. You get what I mean, right? Yes, some words can be ambiguous, but we are all usually familiar with their ambiguities. The thing is for some guys some words seem to bring about different meanings to them when used in their own created contexts. Perhaps it’s their understanding of the words? I don’t know. I’m just gonna focus on three common words: “like”, “nice” and “later” in referring to specific contexts I’ve come across being used by some guys. I sometimes get confused when these words are used by the opposite gender coz’ my understanding of these words seem to differ from them. Let’s go through one by one,k.

Like

I like you.” When a guy says he likes you, what does it actually mean? Like is such a general word. I mean isn’t it understood that all the guys you are friends with do like you?? If not they won’t be friends with you, right? That’s why “like” can cause confusions and misunderstandings at times. In a girl’s head when a guy says he likes her, this would probably be going on in her mind: “What does he mean that he likes me? He likes me like a friend? Like a sister? Or he like like me?? Like more than a friend?? What is he trying to say???” Hence, what ensues after that is a host of confusions. Some girls might ask out right, but some might not as not to sound too forward and too “perasan”. Hmm… the word “like” is such a complicated word.

Nice

You are a nice person.” Girls, if a guy comes up to you and says you are a nice person, what would your reaction be? Perhaps thank him? That’s for sure the polite thing to do. But what if this comes from your boyfriend who uses it to describe you? How would you react? Will those draconian horns be out for blood?? “Nice?? You think I’m only nice???” Here, some might see the word negatively coz’ it sounds so bland, so ordinary, so biasa. I know they mean well, but don’t they have any other words in their vocabulary to use to compliment the fairer sex? Sigh… Some guys really need to expand their vocabulary when it comes to flattering us girls, don’t they?

Later

We’ll talk later,k.” Oh, this simple phrase has confused quite a few girls many, many times coz’ our understanding of the word “later” is a time or somewhere in the very, very near future within the same day the conversation takes place, not the next day or the day after that. When you say you’ll talk later means you should do it within the same day. When you don’t do it, it’ll irk the hell out of a person, especially a person who’s very particular about things said. Usually when this happens, the girl would be wondering and trying to reinterpret what the guy had said earlier. “He said later. Later means…?? In a couple of minutes time? In a few hours??”  When nothing happens within the same day, the girl will definitely feel bengang. Darn, another confusing situation!! “What did you actually mean??” Haiz, mean what you say la! Don’t just say say!! Ish, sakit hati la!

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Perhaps there are many more words out there that are used differently in certain situations, but these are the ones which seem to stand out the most to me based on my very, very limited experience with some of theseXYs. Guys, don’t say things lightly coz’ you know girls do tend to be more analytical. They will dissect every word you say. That’s why you guys need to pay extra attention and DON’T just say things you don’t mean or things you aren’t gonna follow through. You really don’t wanna see the dragon lady. Trust me, you don’t! 😛

 

 
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Posted by on November 19, 2014 in Life in Transition

 

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