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The Other Person

Sometimes something that seems trivial to us might not be that trivial to another person. We behave nonchalantly. We ignore, we avoid or sometimes we just brush it off as something insignificant. But in actual fact, it might mean a lot to the other person.

Whereas, to us, it’s just another thing. We might wonder what’s wrong with this person? Why all the fuss?? The thing is we all see things through our own lenses, our very skewed lenses.

Well, we can only know how the other person feels if we are in the other person’s shoes. At times, we just need to take a moment and be that other person.

 
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Posted by on April 14, 2015 in Life in Transition

 

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Don’t Marry coz’….

Someone recently shared a piece of advice given by John Dumelo, Ghana’s most eligible bachelor and I couldn’t agree more with it. Marriage isn’t something you can jump into in a blink of an eye. You’ve gotta get hitched for the right reasons and not because that’s the “in” thing to do.  Remember it’s for life, till death do us part. You wouldn’t want that down the road after a few years, you’ve lost interest in each other and you start to drift apart. Best case scenario you stick it out with your other half coz’ you feel that’s the right thing to do; worst case scenario, you go your separate ways. Actually, there’s no best or worst case scenario coz’ both suck. So, put some serious thought into this whole marriage business before you jump into it. Get into it with your eyes wide open and not shut,k. 😉  

 

Don’t marry for sex.
Don’t marry because you are of age.
Don’t marry because you are getting old.
Don’t marry because you are lonely.
Don’t marry because you need someone to support you financially.
Don’t marry because you mistakenly got pregnant.
Don’t marry because you don’t want to lose the person.
Don’t marry because of family pressures.
Don’t marry because you like the idea of marriage and admire every wedding gown you see.
Don’t marry because all your friends are getting married.
But get married because you are in love, get married coz’ he or she is your best friend and when that love is no more, he or she can still make you smile. 🙂

 

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Posted by on January 27, 2015 in Life in Transition, Love

 

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It’s all just a show..

You may think I’m cool.
You may think I’m unfeeling.
You may think I’m nonchalant.
You may even think I’m bold.

But the truth is it’s a façade I’ve perfected, a mask I wear. I don’t say or show you how I feel coz’ if I do that means I have to acknowledge my emotions and my feelings and that is something I’m not ready to do yet.

For now, I am happy in my make-believe little world. 😉

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Posted by on January 11, 2015 in Creative Juices, Life in Transition

 

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Cars, cars, cars…

If you have been driving a Honda City all this while and all of a sudden you are given the opportunity to drive a Mercedes, how would you feel? Excited? Constantly in anticipation to get behind the wheels? Perhaps for some.

Well, likewise for a few rare individuals if it was the other way around. If you have been driving luxurious cars all your life and all of a sudden you are presented with a Myvi, you might find the novelty of driving one appealing. For you, perhaps it’s an adventure, some kind of “fun”?  A chance for you to feel like the common person, perhaps?

Now what if you have never driven a car before and come upon a chance to own one. How would you ever choose? What would your criteria be? Looks? Speed? Manufacturer? Fun factor? Sometimes it can be a mind boggling decision coz’  it’s not like buying a shirt or a blouse. There’ll be loads of dough that you’ll need to invest in, so you’ll be cautious. You’ll survey, check out all that the market has to offer. Sometimes your choice might surprise you. You might have your heart set on a particular car, but you might not purchase it at the end of the day.

I still remember 10 years ago when I went to the Hyundai showroom with the intention of buying a Getz. Well, I came out with a Matrix instead! Hahaha… The thing is the Getz really caught my attention on paper, but when I saw the real deal, the appeal wasn’t there. Instead its’ brother, Matrix caught my attention. You could say we “clicked”, we made a connection. I have never regretted my decision. It might not be the handsomest of cars, but there’s just something very appealing about it. I can’t quite put my finger on it. It has served me well and it will continue to do so.

Anyhoo, I really do believe in the saying, “don’t judge a book by its cover”.  I know it’s only natural that we first see the cars paraded in front of us at surface value, but after a while, you’ve really gotta look deeper. You’ve gotta see whether the car is worth the money you are gonna spend on it. The car in time will lose its lustre, so it’s its body and engine that you’ve gotta pay attention to.    

Now the thing is cars might not be everyone’s cup of tea. Some might live this life without ever driving or owning a car. I don’t think we need to pity them coz’ perhaps they have decided on other modes of transportation, or it could be their time to own a car has not arrived yet. There’s no use rushing into an ownership just because everyone else you know has a car. It’s a big commitment. You’ve gotta be 101% sure of your decision coz’ once you own a car you can’t just simply change or buy another. Well, actually you can, if you have loads of money to splurge!! So, car shopping, anyone?? 😛

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Posted by on January 5, 2015 in Creative Juices, Life in Transition

 

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Them Guys and their words

I’m not an authority on the male species. In fact, I’m the last person to say that I know them well. But what I’ll like to share is my two cents on some of them when it comes to word usage in certain situations. So remember that what I’m writing about is not applicable to all guys but only to SOME,k. 😉

Let’s talk about words for a while. As I know it and everyone else knows it as well, English words in general have the same meaning across the board. I mean “one” means one. It doesn’t have a different meaning according to gender. You get what I mean, right? Yes, some words can be ambiguous, but we are all usually familiar with their ambiguities. The thing is for some guys some words seem to bring about different meanings to them when used in their own created contexts. Perhaps it’s their understanding of the words? I don’t know. I’m just gonna focus on three common words: “like”, “nice” and “later” in referring to specific contexts I’ve come across being used by some guys. I sometimes get confused when these words are used by the opposite gender coz’ my understanding of these words seem to differ from them. Let’s go through one by one,k.

Like

I like you.” When a guy says he likes you, what does it actually mean? Like is such a general word. I mean isn’t it understood that all the guys you are friends with do like you?? If not they won’t be friends with you, right? That’s why “like” can cause confusions and misunderstandings at times. In a girl’s head when a guy says he likes her, this would probably be going on in her mind: “What does he mean that he likes me? He likes me like a friend? Like a sister? Or he like like me?? Like more than a friend?? What is he trying to say???” Hence, what ensues after that is a host of confusions. Some girls might ask out right, but some might not as not to sound too forward and too “perasan”. Hmm… the word “like” is such a complicated word.

Nice

You are a nice person.” Girls, if a guy comes up to you and says you are a nice person, what would your reaction be? Perhaps thank him? That’s for sure the polite thing to do. But what if this comes from your boyfriend who uses it to describe you? How would you react? Will those draconian horns be out for blood?? “Nice?? You think I’m only nice???” Here, some might see the word negatively coz’ it sounds so bland, so ordinary, so biasa. I know they mean well, but don’t they have any other words in their vocabulary to use to compliment the fairer sex? Sigh… Some guys really need to expand their vocabulary when it comes to flattering us girls, don’t they?

Later

We’ll talk later,k.” Oh, this simple phrase has confused quite a few girls many, many times coz’ our understanding of the word “later” is a time or somewhere in the very, very near future within the same day the conversation takes place, not the next day or the day after that. When you say you’ll talk later means you should do it within the same day. When you don’t do it, it’ll irk the hell out of a person, especially a person who’s very particular about things said. Usually when this happens, the girl would be wondering and trying to reinterpret what the guy had said earlier. “He said later. Later means…?? In a couple of minutes time? In a few hours??”  When nothing happens within the same day, the girl will definitely feel bengang. Darn, another confusing situation!! “What did you actually mean??” Haiz, mean what you say la! Don’t just say say!! Ish, sakit hati la!

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Perhaps there are many more words out there that are used differently in certain situations, but these are the ones which seem to stand out the most to me based on my very, very limited experience with some of theseXYs. Guys, don’t say things lightly coz’ you know girls do tend to be more analytical. They will dissect every word you say. That’s why you guys need to pay extra attention and DON’T just say things you don’t mean or things you aren’t gonna follow through. You really don’t wanna see the dragon lady. Trust me, you don’t! 😛

 

 
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Posted by on November 19, 2014 in Life in Transition

 

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