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Work PleasureThe first week of the new semester seems to be off to a great start. The kids seem energetic and hardworking in churning out their ideas for the projects to be carried out this semester. This is a good sign indeed! 😁

Every start of a new semester, I’ll usually meet a new batch of kids and this is what I’ll tell them. Practise using English as much as you can now. This is the time for you to brush up on your language skills. Don’t worry about making mistakes coz’ your lecturers are here to correct you. But if you keep using your mother tongue alone, how would you know you are making any mistakes? How are you going to improve your command of the language? How are you going to communicate and present in English fluently when you work? Are you gonna get someone to do it for you? A proxy?? You need to buck up now! Start correcting your attitude and stop being lackadaisical. Stop your ‘tidak apa’ attitude.

The workplace is less tolerable of mistakes made. At times, it can be real cruel and brutal if you are unlucky. You don’t really know what kinda of a boss you are gonna get. Some bosses can be as sweet as can be and some can be the devil incarnate. 😈 There’s really no room for errors. There’s no coddling. You can’t give excuses like “I’m having some personal problems and that’s why I couldn’t finish the project on time” crap. Your boss might say leave your personal problems at the doorstep. Everyone has their own problems.

Your personal life can be put on hold, but your working life, well, that’s another story. Life goes on there. If you can’t take the heat, then you better split. Time is money at work. A delay or a mistake can cause thousands or worse still millions at times. You must always be accountable for the tasks you have been assigned with. If you can’t finish them due to unforeseen circumstances, then make sure someone helps you with them or explain it to your superiors. Don’t leave them in the dark coz’ they might think you are still capable of completing them, but in actual fact, you aren’t. Don’t always expect others to sympathise with you, you need to put yourselves in their shoes too. They too have deadlines and people to answer to, not just you. When you screw up, they get screwed too. 😨 So be a little considered.

I look at my kids and they will nod and smile in understanding. In reality, I don’t really know how much of what I say goes in. Perhaps it might just go in one ear and come out the other? Mayhaps some might take heed. We always say prevention is better than cure, but for some, they just have to  learn it the hard way. I just hope that whatever they go through when they start working won’t scar them for life.  

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Posted by on September 13, 2015 in Life in Transition, Work

 

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Perfectly Imperfect

I am not embarrassed to admit that I am not perfect, I have flaws. I have my own quirky ways. Who doesn’t, right?

Sometimes I am hot-tempered and I can be stubborn as hell. I guess that’s why my nephews used to call me the dragon lady. My brother, on the other hand, calls me the communist coz’ I can be very hard-hearted at times. When I say no, I mean no and there’s no two ways about it! 😤

I am a thinker and I tend to over analyse stuff. But over analysing usually works in my favour coz’ the conclusions I draw from dissecting the facts are often true. However, there are times when it’s just me over thinking. 😁 

Erm, I used to be a very, very impatient person, but I’ve grown to be more patient. Gosh, you have no idea how patient I’ve become because of the situations I’ve gone through. Some might think I’ve lost my mind. But well, that’s just how I am. 😅

We always tell people to practice what they preach. I, for one can tell you I don’t always do that. I know that makes me a hypocrite, but that’s the flaw in me. Well, I’ve realised that sometimes it’s easier said than done. I mean we can tell people how things should be, but when we ourselves are in the same situations, perhaps we might also make the same mistakes. So, I’ve learned to limit my sermons. 

Umm, at times, I have a knack for detecting lies. I get annoyed especially when those lies are told by people close to me. You may think I’m clueless, but no. Sometimes I just act dumb on purpose coz’ I just don’t wanna confront you about it. I am smarter than I let on, you know. 😉

Some people say that I look fierce, a bit unapproachable. They say I’m trying to scare off my potential suitors. Ooh, really? Mayhaps. I think it’s coz’ I usually have my guard on. It’s not that I don’t trust people, I am just not used to being too friendly with people I’m not closed with. That’s why I usually try my best to hide my feelings and emotions. I’ll only really express myself if I’m comfortable with the person.

That’s another reason why I tend to keep a lot to myself. Those who I pour my guts out to can be counted on just one finger. That’s how tight lipped I can get. But I’m learning to let some of these stuff out. See, I’m even baring some of my own shortcomings here. The old me would never have done that.

Anyhoo, if I’m not happy with something, I’ll express myself. Just recently I got into a tiff with someone close for not responding to my communication. I could have let it slide, but I didn’t coz I wanted to let this person know that I was upset and so we bickered back and forth about it after I brought it to the attention of this person. I guess that’s just the way I am. The old me would have just suck it all in and keep quiet, but not the present me.

I feel if the person is important enough, I’ll trash it out. To me, it doesn’t matter whether the question asked was important or trivial, what’s important is that there is a response/ reply. I never expect an immediate reply coz’ people can be busy, but what I expect is a reply and not to be ignored. Why is that? Coz’ that’s how my brain works. If I ask a question, I expect an answer and if I don’t receive one, then I’ll go through a few stages of emotions.

Don’t mess with me!

Being me, first, I’ll worry, wondering whether the person is ok, especially if it’s a close friend coz’ I care. If I don’t care, then I wouldn’t care two hoots if there was a response. You could jump over a cliff for all I care. Next, I’ll get agitated, remember, I tend to over analyse. It really kicks in here. This will be followed by annoyance and then the horns will come out, I’ll get mad. And I really don’t like to reach this stage. When I’m pissed, I’m less nice. To that someone, if you read this by chance, don’t get angry,k. 😅 I know you didn’t do it on purpose. I just wanted you to know how I felt being on the receiving end. We are after all different and might not react in the same manner if placed in the same situation.

I used to keep everything bottled up inside, but nowadays I don’t. It’s unhealthy to suppress negative emotions, so I’ll let it out by confronting the person. It’s not like we will have a sparring match or anything. I’ll just bring it up with the person concerned so that he or she understands me further. I can’t stop how my brain functions, so a little understanding goes a long way for me.

I have many other shortcomings and I will still continue to grow and change no matter my age. I’ll never be perfect coz’ that has never been my aim. I would rather be imperfect coz’ there’s more fun in being a little devil than an angel. 😁

 
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Posted by on June 25, 2015 in Creative Juices, Life in Transition

 

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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder… I truly believe in this. I’m not just referring to skin deep kind of beauty. I’m talking about being beautiful on the inside as well as on the outside as a person. But the thing is what I see as being attractive or appealing might not receive the same response from another person. We all have different tastes after all. Just the other day I was sharing with a friend of mine that at times even our likes and dislikes can change with time and she agreed with me. Sometimes what you had no interest in before this might very well pique your interest any time in the future coz’ a person’s taste can evolve through time. Remember that!!

And so my current mantras are…
• Gotta learn to have self control
• Patience is the mother of necessity

…all because of irresistible you… 😁

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Posted by on June 23, 2015 in Life in Transition

 

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I want…

I am a hopeless romantic, I guess coz’ I want it all. Or am I just being human? I don’t want to settle for less than what I deserve. I don’t want to be in a relationship just because society dictates that I should be in one. I don’t want to be peer pressured into matrimony. I don’t want to miss out on THE ONE coz’ I rushed into choosing someone. I don’t want to have regrets because of not thinking things through thoroughly. I don’t want to remain in a relationship just because it’s the “right” thing to do. I WANT mutual respect, I WANT compatibility, I WANT the silly squabbles, I WANT laughter, I WANT sparks, I WANT passion and above all, I WANT love, a love that will last. I WANT love to be the foundation of you and I. It’s that or nothing at all.

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Posted by on May 5, 2015 in Life in Transition, Love

 

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To be or not to be Strong, that is the question…

We all try to be strong and independent. We know it’s important to be able to stand on our own two feet. We try not to show the world our weaknesses coz’ we do not want to be a bother or a burden to others. But at times, we too need somebody. We need somebody to lean on, somebody to share our ups and downs with. So the next time you see us smile, look again. We might not actually be smiling. There might be a hidden sadness lurking behind that pair of curved lips. 😉

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Posted by on April 25, 2015 in Life in Transition

 

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The Other Person

Sometimes something that seems trivial to us might not be that trivial to another person. We behave nonchalantly. We ignore, we avoid or sometimes we just brush it off as something insignificant. But in actual fact, it might mean a lot to the other person.

Whereas, to us, it’s just another thing. We might wonder what’s wrong with this person? Why all the fuss?? The thing is we all see things through our own lenses, our very skewed lenses.

Well, we can only know how the other person feels if we are in the other person’s shoes. At times, we just need to take a moment and be that other person.

 
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Posted by on April 14, 2015 in Life in Transition

 

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Don’t Marry coz’….

Someone recently shared a piece of advice given by John Dumelo, Ghana’s most eligible bachelor and I couldn’t agree more with it. Marriage isn’t something you can jump into in a blink of an eye. You’ve gotta get hitched for the right reasons and not because that’s the “in” thing to do.  Remember it’s for life, till death do us part. You wouldn’t want that down the road after a few years, you’ve lost interest in each other and you start to drift apart. Best case scenario you stick it out with your other half coz’ you feel that’s the right thing to do; worst case scenario, you go your separate ways. Actually, there’s no best or worst case scenario coz’ both suck. So, put some serious thought into this whole marriage business before you jump into it. Get into it with your eyes wide open and not shut,k. 😉  

 

Don’t marry for sex.
Don’t marry because you are of age.
Don’t marry because you are getting old.
Don’t marry because you are lonely.
Don’t marry because you need someone to support you financially.
Don’t marry because you mistakenly got pregnant.
Don’t marry because you don’t want to lose the person.
Don’t marry because of family pressures.
Don’t marry because you like the idea of marriage and admire every wedding gown you see.
Don’t marry because all your friends are getting married.
But get married because you are in love, get married coz’ he or she is your best friend and when that love is no more, he or she can still make you smile. 🙂

 

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Posted by on January 27, 2015 in Life in Transition, Love

 

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